New Year's Goals: How to Revamp Your Resolutions for February
Hey dream-chasers and goal-getters!. Just checking in to see how those new years goals are coming along for ya!
It's about that time where... we begin to forget about those goals and resolutions we outlined for ourselves on January 1st. And that's okay. It happens, it's all good. But, I really believe we can all jump back on the bandwagon. How? If it's something we really want, and something we can really see ourselves benefitting from, then we will get that! And if you follow my blog, you know I'm all about going after those goals and dreams!
So let's talk about your goals. Did you set any? Have you stuck to them? Before you beat yourself up if you haven't, understand that that is OKAY. Honestly, so many people don't stick to them that now resolutions have a negative connotation for their seriously low success rate.
That being said, you can for sure jump back on that wagon and achieve your goals. Because that's what we're here for. We set goals to improve ourselves, to see ourselves succeed, to feel accomplishment. And there's no reason you should give up on that just yet. With a few adjustments, you can definitely achieve those goals, and maybe even before 2018!
- Redefine your time frame: Was your goal for the whole of 2017? That's 12 long months! How do you know that that will be your goal still in, say, June? Will you still want that goal? I think we're all bound to be more successful in sticking to our goals if we set shorter time frames for them. So, instead of setting a goal for 2018 (that you may have already broken) set one for February. If your goal was to eat healthier for all of 2017, change that to eating healthy for the month of February only, and I promise after you realize how amazing you feel, you'll be more inclined to make that your goal again for March!
- Set Smaller Goals: Instead of making such overarching goals such as eating healthier, losing weight, becoming rich or something so large you can't physically imagine it yet, make some smaller goals. A few smaller goals are easier to achieve and more plentiful, so you'll be more likely to actually achieve something, and feel so good about having achieved a few small things, rather than not achieving a larger goal. I have smaller goals too! To try out and create a new recipe every 2 weeks, and to read every single night! Small goals that lead to bigger things.
- Take out "Should": Just get rid of it -- simple. You shouldn't be doing anything, you have to want to do it to succeed. I'll get to this more in a minute but in the mean time, change "I should meditate more in 2017" to "I want to meditate everyday in February". Then you will see it happen!
- Be specific: See how in the example above I changed "more" to "everyday". That's what you need to do with that goal you set January 1st to see real results. While my goal was "to have more fun" which is as vague as every, I do have "sub goals" that specify how I am going to do that. They're to go out at least once a week at school, reach out to someone new in February, and to say "yes" to at least one thing a week I'd usually say no to. See? Easy to see and easier to achieve!
Now, about my goals! This year, 2017, my goal (not resolution!) was to have more fun and to take myself less seriously. I decided to wait until now, February, to share it with ya, to make sure I was still doing it!
I'm sharing this with you for a few reasons.
1). Gotta be accountable!
2). While I'm not really a believer in New Year's Resolutions (for a whole slew of reasons), I do believe that setting goals can be a positive & rewarding experience.
Why exactly did I chose to set the goal to take myself less seriously? Well, I find that a lot of the time I spend is in my head. I over think everything. I take FOREVER to make decisions, letting the fear of choosing the wrong thing take over. I am so caught up a lot of the time on things I should be doing.
First, the over thinking. It leads to a huge issue I have with decision making... A couple months ago, I decided to go to the book store to get a book for an upcoming trip. 2 hours later, I leave with nothing. Not a book. Why? Because I couldn't decide! So many thoughts were swarming in my mind about which would suit me best, or which I would enjoy the most, etc. All that, over a BOOK. Instead of just forgetting everything I thought and just going for one of the books, I came out with nothing. To me, this is a huge analogy to my life. Sometimes, I find myself over thinking things so much, that I end up wasting a ton of time with a product of nothing. Does that ever happen to anyone else? Need. Tips.
I also wanna be more fun. HA! I mean, I kind of got into my routine of school, blog, workout, eat, etc.... But now, when a friend says, hey lets go out, I want to be able to say YES without weighing the pros and cons over and over in my head. Without worrying what I should be doing. Without worrying about my plans. I want to be more flexible!!
Anyway, I'm choosing (because we all have a choice) to let go of that overthinking issue and take everything a liiiitttttle less seriously. You feel?
Does anyone else tend to overthink things too? Or afraid of making the wrong decision? What if we just abandoned all those fears, those thoughts, and just proceeded anyway. What if we just followed the path that life has laid out for us one step at a time, replacing all those fears with curiosity & possibilities. While I'm afraid to fail, and I always have, I want to take the fear and the negativity out of failure, and just DO things, whether I fail or not. Because a lot of the time, we really don't see what we are capable of until we TRY.
On a related side note, I want to talk about how we should all set a goal of using the word SHOULD less. Wait, that made literally no sense. Do you ever feel like you're so caught up in what society, someone else, or ourselves tell us we should be doing, that we forget what it is we want to do? Same.
Should is a toxic word. It sets us up for failure! Because whether or not we do actually end up doing whatever it is, it will always be because someone else, whoever it is, has the power over us to make us do it. It doesn't come from within, from what we really want or what our gut tells us to do. Whatever the reason, I find that any "should" comes from a negative place. From a toxic place. It sets us up for failure, because if we don't do the said action, we believe that we really should have and that we are a failure for not doing so. Bottom line, if one of your "new years resolutions" has the word "should" in it, and you find yourself not really sticking to it, it may be time to revamp it for February.
SO who's ready to redesign, reassess, and revamp those goals we set at the beginning of last month? I am! I've streamlined mine and added specifics and have so far stuck to them!
I want to know what your goals are and how you plan to stick to them -- just for the month of February. 2017 will follow suit!
Just some thoughts from over here! As you can tell, mindset is a HUGE part of wellness for me. Health isn't health if your mind isn't healthy. Truly. So take it one step at a time and keep walking, or running, toward your goal!
XO - Amylou
P.S. Can you guess how long it took me to decide on my January goal? Which one was best, the most worth it, which was good enough? Yep, too too long... :)